Having a midwife is SO IMPORTANT. Birth is more than “just as long as your baby is healthy”. When we say that we’re throwing mom out with the bathwater. We’re saying as long as the baby is fine, that the mom doesn’t matter. She does matter! Having had three different experiences, I MATTER! So much! How you feel you are treated in birth matters. With my first, I felt like I was a patient, helpless, restricted, and told what to instead of being able to do what my body wanted naturally to do.
Things were done to me that I was not even aware of, without my permission, any discussion or informed consent. With my second, I had a lot more knowledge and a lot more informed consent, but I still felt like a patient. As if I was not really free to do the things my body naturally wanted to do. With my third, a homebirth, I was completely in control. It was MY experience, and my body's needs and wants making the decisions of how and where I wanted to birth.\
What comes to my mind quite often since having Jasper at home is the fact that his birth has healed me. In more ways than one but mostly in the fact that I was disappointed by how I was treated in birth at the hospital. Having a completely opposite experience at home has healed all those negative feelings of disappointment and lack of control. I felt cared for before, during and after my homebirth better than I did after my other two births. I feel whole. I think all women should feel empowered, positive and in charge of their bodies.
A million thanks to the ladies who helped this happen for me.